The father of the bride-to-be who was sent a stinging email from her future mother-in-law today hit back – branding her ”MISS FANCY PANTS”.
Groom-to-be Freddy Bourne’s step-mum Carolyn, 60, sparked outrage when she emailed future daughter-in-law Heidi Withers, 29, and criticised her manners.
The email slammed Heidi, a PA in London, for her ”lack of grace” and branded her ”an ideal candidate for the Ladette to Lady television series”.
Stunned Heidi forwarded the email to friends and it was soon read by thousands after it went viral and appeared on websites and message boards around the world.
Heidi’s father today dubbed Carolyn ”Miss Fancy Pants” and said: ”I think she has her head stuck so far up her own arse she doesn’t know whether to speak or fart.”
Speaking from his home in Ledbury, Herefordshire, which is adorned with the family’s own coat of arms, Alan Withers, 64, said: ”I was surprised when I read Carolyn’s email to Heidi.
”Heidi was very upset and the two of them obviously don’t see eye to eye. I met Carolyn and her husband Edward for dinner at a pub in London last year.
”Edward was a jovial chap but Carolyn was quite snotty. She had a look about her which made us think she thought she was better than us.
”Ever since that meeting we call her ‘Miss Fancy Pants’. I think she has her head stuck so far up her own arse she doesn’t know whether to speak or fart.
”It’s very sad what has happened but it’s pointless us getting involved.
”I don’t care if she apologises. You can’t take back what has been said once it’s said.
”Of course at the wedding we will shake hands and toast Heidi and Freddie.”
Acid-tongued Carolyn, a specialist flower breeder in Dawlish, Devon, sent the vitriolic email to Heidi THREE times in one day six weeks ago.
Alan said: ”Heidi was sent the email three times in one day. It was sent twice to her personal email and once to her work email.
”The email was very clearly intended to be sent. There was no mistake about what Carolyn was trying to do.
”Carolyn received it at work and forwarded it to me because it had things in it about my wife and I.
”She said to me, ‘What do you think Dad? Should I respond?’
”I told her the best thing to do was not respond to it at all and take the moral high ground.
”A couple of weeks later she and Freddie agreed to jointly respond to her email. I looked at the response once and put it in a drawer.
”I have no desire to meet Carolyn or Edward again before or after the wedding, they don’t know us and we don’t know them.”
In the email, Carolyn lambasts Heidi and fiancÃ© Freddie’s decision to get married in church and hold the reception in a castle, branding it ”brash, celebrity style behaviour”.
But Alan responded: ”The reason we have been unable to contribute as much money was because we both lost our jobs. I don’t Carolyn was aware of that when she sent the email.
”To be frank, where and how Heidi and Freddie get married is no concern of Carolyn’s. We just hope they have a wonderful day and are happy together.”
Alan and wife Sylvia, 60, both ran an agency supplying nurses to care homes before the company which owned the firm made them redundant in January.
He added: ”Sylvia worked in the office and I helped. We were unceremoniously got rid of without warning in January and have been searching for jobs ever since.
”Sylvia is now a matron in a care home and I am still looking for work.”
The couple have another daughter, September, nicknamed ‘Seppy’, 23, who works for a magazine in London.
Carolyn Bourne, speaking from her home in Dawlish, Devon, said: ”I have nothing to say”.